Love of Choice

What's your "Type"? What are you looking for in a man/woman? People have this ideology of how they want their partner to be. They look for love that fulfils them, but due to the different versions of love that exist, some fail to realise there's a type of love they seek. You ever heard a person say it didn't work out with that person cause they're too "Nice"? They have a person who worships the ground they walk on, would do anything to keep that individual happy but the individual just doesn't see the value in that. This could be all to do with the fact that the love wasn't worked for and it came so easy that it has no worth to them. People appreciate what they work for. Love is something that people work for. The addiction of love is deep mentally and physically that the way we process love can sometimes come across abusive. As I mentioned in my last post love is a drug so imagine that first hit you got from a person you fell in love with. That lust period. That's the first high. the first and most powerful hit of love you receive from that person. You see the best in that person, you have the most fun with that person, your the most vulnerable with that person, everything feels like ecstasy. You got so much Oyxcotin flowing through your body you don't see this high ever fading. If its something you have never felt before and it turns out to be a love that you become devastated by if a break up occurs you tend to find out that you now have a "Type". This is sometimes where the abusive aspect of love can take effect cause now you're looking for specific traits in people that appeal to you.

Have you ever seen a Heroin addict enjoy doing Coke?

Just like drug addicts, your type provides a feeling to you that only appeals to you. Different drugs provide different responses and different people mixed also provide different types of relationships. If the person doesn't work for you cause they're too nice or they seem too obsessed with you, make sure you not looking at it from a point where you're looking for your "Hit" When your looking for your hit your looking for the person that your more attracted too at the same time brings out the abusive nature your so comfortable with that you don't realise its abusive. You believe its love. Some women love a guy that takes them through every emotion due to their unpredictable life choices. Those women are the fixers. Addicted to fixing a man they think is broken. They want to put the work in to win that man over. These men have traits at times that oppose what the woman values at the same time they are in awe that the man can be so rebellious and dominate. Its what turns them on. They love that side. That's the side that lures them in but what they also want is that vulnerable side that only they receive. That side the man doesn't show anyone. That, to some women is their type of drug. Their addiction to wanting to receive the hardest type of love cause its one of the hardest loves to get. That's why you will see a woman take a man back after numerous infidelities, deal with an abusive man, deal with a man who spends a lot of time in and out of prison. A man that will put them through so much stress and hardship. Cause this man may have experienced a life where he doesn't know how to love and the woman's obsession to show him causes so many trials and errors but the belief they will be able to make that person love them the way they want one day is what keeps them going. That hard work to achieve love from that kind of man is the reason so many decent men who already know how to love gets overlooked. Cause sometimes when you bring the love to the table a woman can see it as anyone can attain it. It's not valuable. Doesn't affect them in any way. It's just a party drug love. My advice for women looking for love. Make sure you don't miss the signs of healthy love. The cleanse when toxic relationships don't work is essential to helping you find the love you say you want. So when the man that adores you so much is trying to prove to you he's worthy your not looking for the person that's gonna help you relapse into that abusive state of love you enjoyed so much.