Self-Evaluation

No one on this earth can be classified as a "good person". 

There are a few people on this earth that if you haven't already encountered don't like you. 

There is nothing wrong with that.

We are all flawed human beings, but what we don't do at times is look at ourselves and see what flaws we have that make us at fault for social encounters.

We can be our biggest critics when we decide to take a look at ourselves but with so much negativity around the world and so many struggles on a day to day basis, we tend to be more bias when we view ourselves. There are instances where we may fall out with individuals in our circles and we react by believing that the person must have been The Cancer in the situation. We go on to believe that it is a negativity that the opposing person possesses that causes so much conflict in the relationship. We boost our ego and build up our self-esteem and confidence by flooding our subconscious with words of affirmation that make us feel like we are positive individuals and that anything negative had to have come from the opposing person. 

It may be hard to believe, but some aspects of our personality that we may deem as positive may not be when combined with other individuals. We have a misconception of good and bad. We determine good and bad depending on the circumstances. Murder is bad but murdering someone when at war to defend a country can be deemed as good. This is the same mentality we use when we assess our personalities. We tend to look at ourselves as good people so any circumstance we put ourselves in that brings a bad response doesn't seem to stem from us. 

Me being a critical thinker has its pros and cons. One of its pros is that it allows me to have very enlighting and deep conversations with people and allow them to be open and personal with me as I come across none judgemental. The con is that because that is mainly the kind of conversation that stimulates me, I find it extremely hard to make small talk and create awkwardness for people who may not want to always get into deep conversations. 

For individuals who see small talk as normal, me giving off a reserved attitude usually leads to silence filling the room. This is an example of how things can be if the wrong combination of personalities combines. No one is at fault. A person good at small talk is just being themselves but the negative twist that can be spun is they can be seen as a shallow individual who lacks no substance or lacks a real understanding of themself. A critical thinker can also be seen as a self-obsessed, egotistical, arrogant know it all. It's all about the context of the situation that determines what role you play in relationships. Your strengths can also be a flaw and characteristics traits can also have an expiry date, which is why friendships can be more complex than you think. You can be a confident strong caring person that looks out for their friends and defends them when they're in trouble. This can be positive as you can be seen as a person who defends their friends and family against threats or confrontations and can be extremely caring when the circumstances involve people you love. The negative can always be that this temperament and attitude doesn't need to be on show all the time and can escalate situations. You must know the right and appropriate time to display certain traits in your personality as not every situation is going to need the same behavioral response.

Awareness is something that we lack in this world. We lack awareness in the parts we play for how things to break down. We know the parts we play if we help elevate an individual, however, we don't take account of the actions we contribute in negative circumstances? We have to take a look at our communication skills and see how we can improve them. I believe the lack of empathy in society is cause for us to have a misunderstanding in the roles we play when dealing with other people and leading to a negative outcome. If you deal with different types of people and get the same conflicting reaction, are you trying to treat them as you would any other person? are you taking in their personality and trying to complement it with yours? If your not then that's where self-evaluation is key. Own it, From there you can decide what action you want to take and become and better you.