Who I do It For

Every day you wake up, you have a choice on what you want to do in your life. You can decide to do nothing lay in bed all day and let time past by with no progression. You can wake up and select to contribute to society, be rewarded for it and not take advantage of what you receive. You can also take what you receive and try to build upon it. You can take risks and learn from losses to do better and eventually win. Every choice we make has a question attached to it.

Who are you doing it for?

Who or what makes you decide to make the choices in your life?

We make decisions based on what is important to us. 

That could be our families; our careers could even be money. 

Different stages of our lives supply us with different answers.

Do you know who I do this for?

I do this for my son. 

Always have, and I always will.

I lacked a lot of motivation when I was younger. I had a passion for making music but had a fear of failing at something I loved so much and being criticized that I never gave it my absolute all. I would write music record music, but I was never consistent enough or brave enough for that matter to take the risk and put myself out there. 

My son came into this world, and that changed everything for me.

I never wanted to make an excuse in my life for why I couldn't do something ever again. I had already envisioned his future like his life flashed before my eyes, and I never wanted to allow my son to see or feel like he couldn't do anything because he saw me lack effort. My son gave me the most significant boost in my entire life. For that, I'm eternally grateful. I look at my son as motivation. I don't see him for a reason I can't do something like "Oh I can't go out to the clubs regularly no more cause I have responsibilities" I don't even care about the superficial stuff anymore. Looking at him immediately let me know this person that you helped bring into this world is looking at you to provide them with the tools needed to survive. But you don't want them just to survive. You want them to succeed. To prosper. Go so much further than you ever did. For me to allow my son to achieve that, I have to instil an attitude in him that makes him always look at advancing. I have to create a mindset in him that allows him to move without fear, and they look to you, the parent to see what you are afraid of. They look to you to know how far they can go. If you show your child a limit, they can try to override that fear, or they will mimic and reach the same limit as you when they reach a similar stage in their life. You have to set the example and doing instead of saying it is more important than you can imagine. If they can see you take risks to want more for yourself to be outgoing and confident about who you are, they will subconsciously learn to have these characteristics themselves. They will see this in you, and they will see this in the people that you allow in their circle of life. There are positive and negative influences in life and how you approach the negative influences also plays an important role. Allow your kids to ask you questions about negative situations they see. If you give them a perspective about how to handle adverse conditions, they won't go and seek an answer from somewhere else that derails them from advancing. I ask myself every day, 

Am I doing enough to show him what I want for him?

Am I allowing him to be his own person but have the tools to overcome the flaws we inherit?

Am I pushing him too hard that it's having a negative impact instead of a positive?

Self-doubts are always going to creep in, but you have to have the belief that you're doing enough. You have to believe that you have given enough of an understanding that anything can be fixed with the tools you apply your child with. 

Whoever or whatever you do in life make sure it holds a real genuine and deep value to you. I write cause I want my son to see the journey of my life. As much as he physically sees me by me being present in his life, I want him to be able to see what I think and let him know that his dad genuinely wants to do his best in life. Writing, whether it be good or bad, allows me to show him that. It allows me to let him know vulnerability can be a strength it can help others at times, so I do this for him, I do this for his future, and I do this for me.