Own Your Setbacks

We all have dreams and aspiration. We all have goals and achievements we want to reach in life. 

There are realistic goals, and there are goals we wish we could manifest into reality. 

 Everything we imagine is achievable, it just depends on how an individual. Approaches the situation, their drive, determination and belief in themselves. 

Sometimes when you set goals, you share them with someone that you feel comfortable being open with and you express to them all the things you want to achieve.

When you express those goals, at times you are telling them to someone who really values you and wants to see you win.

You have a fan.

A person who wants to cheer you onto success and just like a fan gets disappointed when you fail to live up to the expectations you set for yourself. 

Sometimes that person can be too hard on you for letting yourself down, but they just value your happiness and have invested in your goals so much that you letting yourself down lets then down.

They’ve given you their energy and that it’s a valuable commodity in itself. In a society of individuals, when focusing on ourselves solely is becoming the norm, the value of giving time and energy to someone else is so high that we don’t want it to go to waste. 

Yes, we are all flawed human beings who make mistakes and don’t always follow through with what we set. But just like competitions that take place, sports or anything that requires individual or teams to win, we want those people to give their all and only except failure if we see that’s been expressed. 

You should only accept defeat when you have truly given your all. When you give yourself excuses for loses, it means you cannot learn from them to eventually win. You're just giving yourself a reason to not have to be so hard on yourself for failing. Failure comes with growth. Failure allows you to truly test how much you want something. If all the good things we wanted in life was easy to obtain, we wouldn't want them anymore, so when we decide to give up on those things and give ourselves reasons for no longer wanting them, we are cheating ourselves out of our truth.

Regret starts to build, but we're not aware of the guilt at the time. We push the experience to the back of our minds but as we grow and go through life, the path we blocked ourselves from breaking through starts to come back to the forefront of our minds because something else we didn't really want to do also fell through. Plan B, C and deal can fall through, and that could be because you never learned to overcome setbacks. Setbacks allow you to build a healthier mentality. The mind is such a powerful tool that when we don't educate ourselves on how to use it, we can allow it to hinder how we approach things. If we can manifest being ill and then genuinely becoming ill, then we can easily lead ourselves to think we aren't deserving of our biggest dreams. Success can come down to metaphorically looking down the barrel of a gun and not flinching when the trigger is pulled. Facing your senses and every emotion you possess will come to the surface, and your mentality will define whether you can stand tall in the moment or fall under the pressure. If you fall, you fall. Learn to look at that as an obstacle you WILL overcome. Dust yourself off, go again and allow the fear of failing again to push you through and accomplishing everything you want. 

We have two sets of fears we face when it comes to our needs and wants. The fear of not getting it and the fear of achieving it. People fear to attain their goals as the too good to be true mindset creeps in. If you allow yourself to fear success instead of fearing failure,  your desire to win will overcome any doubts that try to creep in.